If you know me, you know I regularly suggest to clients and friends that they should let go of what doesn’t fit the body they have now. I feel strongly about letting go of what doesn’t fit and I encourage clients to find clothes that fit the body they have now…not the one they want, not the one they had, and not the one they are going to have. I know some think I am crazy and don’t agree with me and that’s okay.
Letting go is a process for some. Trying to figure out what to let go of and what to keep can be challenging at best so when working with clients I suggest making a 30, 60, 90 day pile. The idea is to put the items that don’t fit or you are unsure about in a pile and after 30 days, 60 days and 90 days you try them on. If they don’t fit after 90 days then it’s time to let them to go. What typically happens with 99% of my clients is they realize those clothes are not going to fit, are not really their style anymore, or they didn’t love them as much as they first thought so it’s easier to let them go. Letting go with the 30, 60, 90 day plan can be easier than you think.
So, tell me about the clothes you’re holding onto…The jeans, pants, and tops in your life.
- Do you have different piles?
- A no chance in heck pile?
- A might someday squeeze into them pile?
- A pile for the ones you actually wear?
Letting go is hard. Believe me when I say I understand. It’s tough because you invested good money, you tell yourself you “should” fit into them, or you might still where the item somewhere. But…what if you let go of what isn’t working for you and found clothes that fit the body you have now and you felt AMAZING every day? I was recently came across a quote by Mel Robbins on Instagram and it was brilliant.
“You’re not supposed to fit into clothes, your clothes are supposed to fit YOU.”
So often we tell ourselves there must be something wrong with us when clothes don’t fit when really there is nothing wrong with us.Then there was this one…
“Keeping clothes in sizes that don’t fit you is NOT a form of motivation. It causes stress, anxiety, and triggers negative self-talk, all of which actually make it harder to love your body and mind.”
I couldn’t have said it better myself. Both are super powerful quotes that challenge the way we think about ourselves and our bodies and our clothes.
Is it time to start letting go? Can you start letting go with a 30, 60, 90 day pile? If you need help going through this process please feel free to reach out.